Part seven of the 10 things I wish I knew before leaving Africa
From Wikipedia encyclopedia: Jungle fever- a slang term for interracial relations
It was my last week in Kenya and I was just about to be shipped off to Australia. There I was, casually sauntering through Carnivore trying to convince older women that I still wasn’t being breast fed. Out of the corner of my eye I saw a friend of mine, drunker than a depressed brewery worker, come staggering down. He staggered directly to me, plopped his hand on my shoulder and delivered a monologue that I will probably never forger until the day I die. I paraphrase:
“You guy as you ship over, remember something….(dramatic pause) Those Western women love black d***. These chicks wait at the airport with signs just chilling for the next black dude to step off the plane..(At this point, I drifted off into fantasy land imagining the possibilities of what he had just told me)”
You can’t even imagine what that did to me. As I stepped on that Kenya Airways plane, I had a pep in my step and I wasn’t looking back. And then I arrived!!!
So What Do I Know Five Years Later?
I am glad you asked. I have been in boarding school in the country, Christian schools, public schools, different cities, different states and different Universities. I have hung out with Kenyans, Zims, Tswanas, Ugandans, Asians, Indians, Caucasians the whole shebang (btw what type of word is shebang? who came up with a word like shebang?). My observation is pretty simple. African men being mighty conquerors who head on over to Western countries and can seduce any Western woman they want because they all swoon over him: by and large that’s a myth!
There are in general five types of Western women who get jungle fever for African men:
1) Girls with low self esteem
2) Girls who are ‘kilogramically challenged’ aka a tad bit overweight
3) Girls with drug problems
4) Girls who wanna ‘be down’ (think double-entendres here)
5) Girls who watch too much interracial porn or spend way too much time in fantasy land
Low Self Esteem and Overweight
I have put these two together for one reason. Now ladies, please, correct me if I am wrong: I have noticed that as far as woman are concerned, even in this post-feminist age, majority of women still pretty much value themselves on the basis of their beauty and/or their desirability to potential suitors.
If you don’t believe me, Google ‘Weight loss’ and see how many results come up. Go to the supermarket and check how many of those magazines talk about fabulous dresses and ways to please your man. Finally, tell a girl she is stupid and unemployable and watch her reaction. Finally tell her she is ugly and no one will ever find her attractive.See which of the two derives a stronger reaction (btw please don’t actually do this experiment to see how hurt someone gets, I can tell you right now in my experience it’s the ugly comment that hurts the most)
So let’s assume you now agree with me. Now out here in the West, fat women aren’t generally considered beautiful. Therefore if women feel they are not beautiful and desirable they tend to feel pretty worthless and have self-esteem and self-confidence issues.
Cue the African Man
I won’t even bother explaining and philosophizing on it……I’ve got two stories for you:
The Story of the Fully Stocked Fridge (An African Man’s Take on Why We Sleep with Fat Western Women, again I paraphrase. Actually anytime I quote someone, assume I am paraphrasing and not giving you a verbatim quote unless I state otherwise): So you’re in the club and you know, you are not there to preach. You have three missions, chill with your boys, grab a cold one and finally maybe leave with a little something something…..
So you check in the club it’s maybe 9:30pm, sit down and start vibing with your boys. The pints start coming and a good time is being had by all. Then around midnight,you start to feel your soldier down south telling you it’s time to go hunting.
So you know, there are a few mirooz(Africans for the uninitiated) around, so you begin campaigning. You ask to the left, is nothing. You ask to the right, nyimwad (denied).
Then you notice something out of the corner of your eye but you push it aside. Around 2:30 a.m. that thing that was taking up just a corner is now taking up the ENTIRE space of both your eyes. She’s a big woman and you’re like, “There’s no way…there’s just no way.”
At 3 a.m., you rewrite your rules and draft a new constitution. And so you look around and say to yourself, “Enyewe njaa ni mbaya (the hunger is bad).”
3:15a.m., you are there with your hand outstretched, asking her if you can connect the dots. Talking is just a formality and after a quick convo, you leave together.
Now the great thing about sleeping with a big woman is come the next morning. You have finished your work. Now she’s a big woman so you’ve just put in overtime on that shift. But when you go to the fridge…..”
“….Fully loaded! If you’re a broke or a student, it’s like going to heaven. By sleeping with big mamas you save $50 in shopping every week.”
So What’s the Game Plan?
The Book Review (This is another friend of mine telling me about a book he had just recently read):
“The guy who wrote the book is a bright guy. Now anytime you look at a group of chicks, there is always either an ugly one or a fat one, sometimes they are the same person. Now other guys will be campaigning for the other chicks, but you, you’re a time saver. You compromise on quality for the evening and you slide on in to the unattractive often neglected friend. A bit of flattery, make her feel beautiful and boom, you’re in.”
Btw both stories are true, a bit exaggerated but very very true.
Has a Drug Problem and Wants to Be Down
Again these two are very much related. These women tend to be the women who are knee deep into the hip hop culture and think that African is one big country where we ALL listen to hip hop and act like 50 cent-Ask someone who’s been in the West a while and you learn this stereotype is surprisingly common.
So after listening to enough Bone Thugs n Harmony, they begin to sample marijuana, or a bit of cocaine or speed or whatever. And soon enough they become addicted. What do they do?
1) First they seek people to smoke with. (btw I kid you not, for those of you who haven’t found enough odd things on the Internet, there is actually a dating site for marijuana smokers. I guess we all need love…..)
2) And then they seek someone to sell them the drugs on a regular basis
Cue the Black Man
This spot is reserved for the African brothers who are also knee deep into hip hop. In my first couple of years here, it was quite common for people to stop me and ask me if I had any drugs or any pills. So if a white girl finds a brother and he can fulfill he narcotic cravings, it’s a match made in heaven, or grown in a coca farm in Bolivia.
A Few Problems Though
1)Some of these women tend to take this trying-to-be-African-American-thing a bit too far and even decide they will try to be drama queens like, “some of the sistaz they saw on TV.” This pretty much guarantees that a quiet night of socializing turns into a session where she huddles up with ‘her girlfriends’ to talk about, “men aint worth s……”
2) When she tires of the hip hop lifestyle or she outgrows it or the consequences come knocking, she will dump a brother and leave him cold and alone faster than you can say, “She’s my woman and she’s gonna stand by her………”
The Mandingo Fantasy
In truth, this fantasy probably plays a role in almost all cases of Jungle Fever. This fantasy basically reduces all young black men all over the world into strong ebony love-making Gods with elephant trunks swaying between their legs and the love-making skills of Don Juan in his prime. Women who strongly by into this fantasy tend to have either watched too much interracial porn or too many movies that talk about how, “brothers are packing down south.” Now I am yet to meet an African man who is willing to argue against this fantasy or attempt to disprove it in any way. I am not about to but it’s definitely something that’s there and you should know about.
However, if you wanna know what type of women regularly try to test out this fantasy to see if it matches reality, generally they have characteristics 1 through 4 in the list above.
So What’s the Point? What Should We Do?
Well this depends on what you want. What my friend promised me at Carnivore is true. If you are coming to Australia just to get laid without regard for the type of person you sleep with, you can. All you have to do is hang around the night clubs and flatter people here and there. In fact a friend of mine’s strategy consists of him going to a club sitting down, drinking and waiting for a white girl to come and flirt with him.
However, if you want good quality relationships, as is always the case, it is very difficult to find. What I would advise is you best be bringing something else to the table rather than a promise of a trunk long enough to choke a gorilla. The people who get the quality tend to be very interesting special people; They may be good looking. They may have a very endearing idiosyncrasy. They may be so smooth they can skate on sand. They may be extraordinarily gifted at business, writing (that’s me 😀 lol), sports, academia whatever. I think the solution to the quality problem is, as much of a cliche as it is:
Know what your passions are. Pursue your passion with vigour and intensity and if you grow a garden beautiful enough, people will come. In truth, from an empirical standpoint, I am not really sure what the solution is. However,I will definitely make it one of the points of this blog to answer that question. I really hope this blog has served.
Before you leave make sure you leave a comment below and let me know your thoughts. Until then, stay off the porn.
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Be blessed and bless others,
Mwangi
For the women reading this, your situation is a lot different from this from what I have observed and studied. This will definitely be a topic of future posts. If you have any thoughts, any ideas, any thing, you think you missed, either leave a comment below or contact me and let me know.
Update: Many months later I did write the article: Jungle Fever 2: The Relationship Between White Men and African Women
Tags: Interracial relationships, Jungle fever, mandingo fantasy, white women black men
Hey, Mwangi, I’m a fellow kenyan and ex- strath guy 😀 Just stumbled on your blog while idly googling the time away. But your right on one thing, Africans are treated better than aboriginals…but were still looked down upon. Let me tell you my personal experience after having spent a couple of months in Perth, Australia.
1. I’m kinda light-brown, so people find it a bit difficult to guess where am from. I frequently get asked where am from and once i mention am from Kenya, people’s reactions are usually like, “Oh, your from Africa?”
2. Because of such stereotypes, i’m not even allowed to exercise my individuality. Instead am just seen as ‘that african guy’ and am lumped up together with people from Cameroon,Zimbabwe etc…coz you know, ‘we’re all the same’
3.I once decided to spend a week being african american(yeah yeah i should not be embarrassed of my culture and all that BS but just shut up and let me finish the story.)I rocked out skinny jeans, converses and a fake american accent with the occasional n-word thrown in here and there.Results: people were fighting for my attention the whole week. I was deemed cool, the ‘must-have’ friend in you entourage. Girls were all over me! For once i actually felt proud to be black(Unlike when i tell people am from Kenya.) I even had to change my number and avoid previous haunts once i became tired of my AA gimmick.
4. From that, i concluded that Aussies, especially the younger, ‘more liberal city folk’ really like African Americans….Africans, not so much.
5. What most people know about Kenya, or Africa in general, is what they see on the tv(though i can’t blame them for that.)And the media rarely shows anything positive about Africa. The only positive things that people i met knew about Kenya was long-distance running and safaris.
6. On the other hand, you have people who think Africans are exotic and will keep hanging out with you if you do more ‘African’ than ‘western’ things. E.g. consistently encouraging me to wear something African instead of wearing t-shirts and jeans. It’s the equivalent of thinking that,oh I don’t know, all Japanese women wear kimonos or something like that. In their heads, i’m assuming they think that you can’t be westernized even if you are from a traditionally non-westernized place.
7. People don’t like sitting next to me on the bus and its a generally pleasant experience when somebody actually does.
8. Asian people don’t like me and will really go out of their way not to interact with me.*However this does not apply if you claim to be African-american*(Yes i know am stereotyping and in fact i do have some Asian friends. Am just simply stating the ‘general feel’)
9. The sad realization that i may actually be ‘white-washed.’ In fact this was probably before even coming to Oz. Hell, my favourite artist is Florence and The Machine. From a Nairobi-context Mwangi, i was the kinda guy who would listen to X-fm, watch loads of anime, take a piss on all things ragga related, spoke ‘nairobi english'(which i think should be called engsh. You’d probably recognise it with its common phrases such as ‘you guy’, ‘si-you’. In fact if you’re from strath you probably know what am talking about),loved gaming,had watched all the latest tv shows etc. Even in Nairobi, people thought of me as being kinda weird.
10. Being white-washed/westernized/whatever the hell you want to call it means i really didn’t have much of a problem adjusting to my current new life in Oz. It’s my version of Nairobi except better i guess? Though on the other hand i’m not really sure whether Oz will ever get used to me. I can instantly make any social situation awkward by just simply being there,I still face the ‘Africa stereotypes’ everyday when i meet someone new,people also tend to get ‘jumpy’ around me(sometimes i wonder whether i give off a ‘potential-rapist’ vibe),i’m always on the look out for potential Ku-Klux members, I find it easier to interact with other foreigners than with Aussies. Anyway you just have to make the best of what you’ve got
@Ex-strath dude: First up, always great to hear from ex Strath folks. The African American vs African and I would even add British and West Indies African thing is definitely a reality. I actually have a friend I have known now for 9 years who started off with the African American act close to 10 years ago and is still continuing with the act and getting quite a high level of success.
I think, ultimately, as educated as we think we all are, we really shouldn’t underestimate the power of all those superficial things we think we are above ( e.g. looks, fame, power, the way you are perceived in mass media). The older I get, and the more I read comments on this article, the more I am reminded that ultimately what I am discussing here isn’t an intellectual matter at all (as many people think that race, xenophobia and culture can be reduced to) but rather a discussion of our most primal, simplistic and probably animal parts of our nature.
Hey, just reading through your post, its very funny, and I must admit, this does seem to apply in alot of cases. I am white, and whilst I’ve never been out with an African man, I must admit I do find them rather attractive.
None of your above points apply to me hahaha.
I just think African men are very attractive, same way some people find guys that have blonde hair and blue eyes attractive I guess haha.
But I definately do agree, I have seen lots of overweight girls talking up black guys, I dont know why I guess its just the stereotype 🙂
As a white woman in the U.S., i can honestly say that the only man who I fell in love with was a Nigerion….big mistake…. Beautiful man… Met him at a bar, which I rarely would do…. i treated assholes at bars like assholes… And, since he thought or assumed he was so smart and I apparently look like a dumb blond, he tried to hit on me using ONE of his MIDDLE NAMES… i was not in the mood for any dude so I callled his ass out on it. And told him that I caught onto his accent and when he said Nigeria was where he was from, I was like “dude, wtf, if that is true then what is ur real name? I am not dumb.”… And, I expected him to walk away insulted but, he was fascinated instead. I guess he couldnt believe that some hot blond girl could be less than a bimbo…. Anyways, I did end up… Not that night, but later, sleeping with him as friends with benefits… He had been in the states for like 12 years and was pretty Americanized… But, i didnt have expectatons of the ralationship until I realized that DEAR GOD, HE TREATS ME LIKE A QUEEN WHENEVER I AM NEAR HIM. I guess, it is that naturally fit and beautiful body mixed with how he treated me….. But, damn, as a noj stupid girl I was pretty dumb to start to fall for him… But, who wouldn’t? Some African men treat their women like GOLD even if it is friends with benefits…. Different than many American men, black or white… And, DEAR GOD, THAT SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL… I am no dummie, but, wow, that man was aweso e in many ways… i suppose I was being used like I used him; however, then the focus os feedig and caring for his family BACK Home comes into play along with any career opportunity… And I become”that girl” he was screwing… I am fine with that… But truth be told… Holy shit… African men can be soooo f ing hot!
Hello Mwangi,
I just came across your blog, and this post right here. I had to tell you it really made me laugh. So much so that Id like to write something on what western women visit Africa expect of African men, because believe me there are just as many steriotypes and crazy beliefs. That being said people getting so offended by this piece of writing need to chill out! I am a white English woman, I am not over weight at all, I do not suffer from low self esteem, I am well educated, and I have never had a drug problem nor do I have a love of hip hop as a music genre. I am however in love with a Kenyan man, who found this blog entry equally as funny 🙂
I’m a 22 year old American girl, who just moved to Tanzania and found this post hilarious! And it’s funny because it’s true. Keep in mind though, there are exceptions- I like to think of myself as one, but for the most part, I see exactly where you are coming from. Initially, I went to Africa to volunteer, along with 30 other people (mostly girls) in the same program. In the beginning, I was shocked to see volunteers getting with locals and thought they all were kichaa sana (very crazy). It quickly became the norm and most of the girls found themselves being attracted to a guy. Although I questioned the reasoning, I didn’t see any problems with these relations, but I was strictly against this for myself. Keep in mind, I am considered an attractive girl and finding men wherever I go has never been a problem. Guys were the last thing on my mind when I came to Africa and for once in life- I was there to concentrate on everyone but myself. Welll isn’t life funny sometimes… To my surprise, by the end of the summer, I ended up joining the rest of them and -gasp- fell for a local. Obviously after 3 months living anywhere in this world, a girl is inevitably going to be open to the idea. I noticed for the most part, that the girls that loved “interacting” with locals in the beginning were in your categories (overweight, enjoy fads- interracial relationships IN in Hollywood right now, low self-esteem). One thing I think is missing in your category is: baggage/age. I noticed a lot of older women (usually divorced) tended to be attracted to locals (I recently met a 32 year old American woman, about to marry a 20 year old African boy). Also, girls at the age of 19-21 that are “experimenting” or “rebeling” and testing their limits. I also encountered married American women, volunteering for a few weeks and enjoying alll that Africa has to offer… Absolutely.Horrible. I found all of this to be quite interesting though. Elsewhere in the world, the majority of these females normally would not be hit on and guys don’t even take a double look- yet in Africa, they were swarmed with attention. I can see how they are the happiest they’ve ever been with this new found attention and desirability. I laughed at the idea, and as I said, had no problems with their relationships (live & let live, right?) – but I just did not see myself joining them. I haven’t had any trouble getting a guy wherever I am. I don’t mean this in a conceited manner at all, I just mean that this attention wasn’t new to me and I was used to it. I became good friends with many locals, including one that developed into much more- now I honestly consider him to be my soul mate (strong words, I know). I constantly find myself having to defend against these stereotypes though. Call me crazy, but I consider our love as an exception, a rare thing in this world. Especially to most mzungu-local relationships. Just know that it is possible to find love in Africa for all the right reasons. –If you take offense to this blog/post, then you most likely fall into these categories discussed. But if you’re happy, then really it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. 🙂
I’m an Africa man and like all of my friends without exception we all like bit girls,,generally speaking ,,, and for me I do have fetish attraction to the bigger white gal,,for non of the reasons you mention,, ,, I think this is a matter of personal preference,, that may have some cultural roots. For instance I like one of the girls in the picture, the one on the right with the curves,,,,
Wow I thought came on just as I write this,, some people have suggest that the reason why it bigger or being fat is a good thing in the continent is because in the past in my area only the rich could afford three meals and consequently get bigger,, so there is the association better fat , bigger and being rich or well to do,,, whatever it may be the reason there is a genuinely root in African men being attracted to bigger women as a matter of fact,, not necessary obesse as that is a desease ,,,some how I dont hate tiny ones,, but grew up being fascinated by the bigger lady,,,at the moment I think am mature and size doesnt play a major rule in influencing who I dat,,,
Accidently stumbled upon this article..
I dont know if youe blog is active anymore, as I see this post is a few years old, but I just had to say few words about what you wrote.
I do see the things you describe happening. I also fill one stereotype myself, as being the fat girl. Ive been wondering a long time why black guys are toasting me constantly.
As some of them might be thinking that cos of my size I might have bad self esteem etc. and they want to try their luck, but in most cases it has not been so.
Ive met several who genuinely find bigger women attractive, and like the previous poster said, it seems to be something that is rooted in the culture. Of course not all men fit into that perception, as there are white guys who don’t like thin blondes too.
I want to point out also, that being fat doesn’t automatically mean you are ugly, or have bad self esteem. It comes down to ur face, how your body is shaped etc. There are ugly thin women, and Ive seen some africans dating them too, which category do they go to?
Some african guys probably would date whoever they can get, as long as she’s white. And in that way I do think that unfortunately some big women might be easier to get, IF they have low self esteem.
Ive been suspecting, that maybe those newcomers who haven’t been exposed to many white girls in their life, cannot really tell how they look like. You know, kind of like a same phenomenon when you look at asians; they all seem to look alike at first. I know this might sound funny, but I actually know some african guys who told me that the first half a year, most whites looked the same to them.
In a way I find this stereotype sad in my own case, cos I feel dating an african now should mean to an outsider looking that I have a low self esteem or can’t do better? I happen to be beautiful and intelligent and a good catch in many aspects, so people shouldn’t be judging too fast based on one characteristic.
In the same way those african men who do think this way, are selling themselves short. Why do u think that a brother who’s dating a big girl automatically dates her because he is “settleing” for it?
In scandinavia, where I’m from, many beautiful and succesful women of ALL shapes and sizes prefer african guys, cos they are warm and emotionally more expressive to the native guys here.
Just some thoughts I wanted to share 🙂
@ APrettyMzungu okay, so today i was so depressed i had to go to the library and look out for things like this to read…it so cool to find this and couldn’t stop laughing. Anyways, I am African and i know i am cool, handsome,, sweet and you name it.. never had a problem with girls and when i was coming to the US, my deal was focus on books and finish up..But after 5months here I grown fond of the white girls and their way of doing things. However, I have noticed that none of my type has shown interest in me but the sect described by the writer…This is really true and for my African brothers the white girls are awesome if you want to be with one it’s cool but just don’t fall victim
thats true about western white women, i can count how many black women i’ve done on my hands. white big, medium or skinny i have banged and lost count, oh yeah the thing about the myth is it might not always be true but however it is true about the best love making or sex, the attraction of a white women to black men is not to do with the dick. the attraction is greater than white men and white women. women are attracted to something beastly and different in appearance.
Mr Mwangi, your blog has been going on for a long time now!And with the same topic. I might as well throw in my penny worth. I believe if you meet someone and fall in love, their race, ethinicity, size and all that, does not matter. If you leave your country and go to any country in Europe, Africa, Americas, Asia, Australasia, chances are you will fall in love with the people who make up the majority in that country. Or if you will do it for exprimentation, the same goes. I live in Botswana, and I see alot of white men going out or married to local women. Some of the women are beautiful, some are not, and we the locals do wonder if the white dude is for real when it’s an ugly girl! We also wonder if the girls are genuine or after the dollars! But, that would be trying judge people you do not know. Personally, I think let them be! None of my business. So in short people can genuinely fall in love irrespective of race and all steriotypes mentioned.
I live in Melbourne Australia and would love to date a tall, well hung and educated African. African men are beautiful overall, and make great lovers.
This saddens me. I am from the US, 23 year old “white girl”. I actually stumbled upon this after having googled “african men and white women” because I have a huge crush on a kenyan man that I work with. Honestly, I have never ever known of a couple consisting of an African man and a white woman… however, I am only 24 years of age. I am not overweight and I don’t have low self esteem. I can’t have a drug problem (I am an RN and could be drug tested anytime), and as a nurse, I also know that being black doesn’t equal having a big one “down there”. lol. I was never attracted to him for the first year that we worked together. Our conversations were always limited… mostly because I couldn’t understand half of what he was saying. But over the past few months, we have gotten to know each other better. He has so many characteristics that I don’t find much of in the average american man, whether white or black. He is respectful and rather reserved sometimes. I have a growing desire for him. He told me he wasn’t married, and brings up the concept of relationship differences in our two very different cultures frequently. I’m pretty sure he knows I like him, but like I said, he’s pretty reserved. He acts shy almost. He also told me that if he found a lover in the states, he wanted to bring her back to kenya to live. So basically, I was trying to do some research. I have some african women friends who told me that alot of african men are still very traditional and only want circumcised females, that they think western women are whores!? Anyhow, point is, I hope he doesn’t think that I fit into one of these categories!
I guess I am a bit late posting my comment as it was four years ago however I do not think that much has changed.
I am a blackman and I live in the UK, i’m of west Indian parentage and I have dated Australian white women. I think your comments are amusing but stereotypes. It makes an interesting read and if you were a stand up comedian I would laugh however the fact that this is an internet blog makes it appear as though you are trying to pass your comments as truth and that is simply offensive.
I don’t date overweight women Australian women. I do not know any. I am only a small guy. I do not smoke or take drugs and I have outgrown Hip Hop. The reasons people fall for each other are complex. I personally believe women in the west prefer westernised men which is why it may appear that white women chase black guys dressed in Hip Hop gear. After all Hip Hop is western culture. A lot of African men wear multi coloured cultural outfits which just do not go down well among western women they can also have views about women which are simply unacceptable. Also part of seduction is charm, making someone laugh. If you are from an different culture it may be harder for you to do this. In London I see a great deal of African men who feed into the Hip Hop stereo type and frankly most look ridiculous because it is clear they are fake.
People tend to meet each other when they mix in similar social circles. A lot of black people prefer to be with black people and stick in black dominated circles. White people in my experience tend to be the same.
Your article does not mention the most important thing. Attractiveness. I think I am a goodlooking guy regardless of my colour and would never date a woman just because she is white. She has to be goodlooking as well. Black people do not all look alike and I can’t believe a goodlooking black man is going to date an ugly woman anywhere just because she is white.
It sounds like you went to Australia thinking you would get a lot of girls and it didn’t work so now you have a lot of bitter things to say about white women. That is not cool at all.
I just wanted to add I have read some of the comments written by Nomad above and I agree with him whole heartedly. Maybe because we are both from the UK we have similar views. I note that katherine from the UK also had similar views so it might just be a UK thing.
I liked that article, I find it very funny…though I think some things can be added from my perspective as a white women. I am NOT into African men BUT if I feel like having sex and no-one is around I know that an African will be happy to help..hahaha…so please add a sixth category: women looking “just” for sex (they do exist)…
On a more serious note: stereotypes exist for a reason but I truly believe that in the end love will conquer any differences in colour, cultural or religious views!
Whoever wrote this is brain dead. How dare she say that any white woman who goes with a man of color must have low self-esteem. This writer has low self-esteem and a low IQ. There are plenty of slim, beautiful, curvy white women who prefer the masculinity and sex appeal of a black man over the whimpy under developed bodies and mentalities of white men. All White men think about his money and how they compare to black men. Well they don’t compare at all. Plenty of white women chase after black men because they look and act more like real men.
@Starde: When it comes to fresh-off-the-boat migrants, I still stand by what I wrote, these many years later. Africans born overseas, African Americans or those who have managed to assimilate to Western culture….entirely different story