No joke! You want the formula, here it is:
A Happy Life is:
Pleasant emotions (Think about that great feeling you have after great food, an awesome movies, theme parks and sex)
A life filled with moments of flow ( When you engage fully in what you are good at. Time and space stand still as you are one with what you are putting out into the world. Check out this interview where its briefly discussed)
A meaningful life (taking your unique gifts and applying them towards the achievement of something greater than yourself
A Very Important Idea to Remember
I have a running hypothesis in my head that as human beings we are naturally wired to hold on to, experience and be guided by what makes us feel pain as opposed to what makes us feel pleasure.
What I mean by this is that, we appear to more naturally remember, want to converse about, and have our actions guided by the one time an employee screwed us over as opposed to the Saturday we went out and watched a great movie.
I have a Discovery Channel derived idea on why that is but that isn’t the point of today’s discussion.
Here’s The Thing
The skills that are neccesary to eliminate negativity and negative emotions ARE NOT the same skills that make us happy.
Let me say that one more time:
The skills that we use to make us stop feeling like crap ARE NOT the same ones that will make us feel happy to be alive.
So, if you are buying into the belief that:
I will be happy when I get rid of this person/this job/retire/this weight etc etc etc you might be right, but chances are, science and literature have repeatedly shown, you are probably holding on to a fool’s gold.
Ladies and Gentlemen
In case you did not watch the video please set aside just a little bit of time today and learn how to be happy for the rest of your life:
Have a day just brimming with positive emotions where you love what you do so much that the time-space continuum does not exist and you truly are bigger than your body,