it seems to me that you have church, media, outreach, immigration assistance ideas which are all noble but I believe it would be difficult to execute on all. find out the one cause you are most passionate about then work on it first.

However, I don’t think I am saying anything that we don’t already think and feel ourselves i.e. that as a whole, collectively,we are far to negative and critical to one another as opposed to encouraging and supportive.
This is far from unique to our community but its still there and its still something that makes me wary of returning when people in a nation like this, and I hear in Tanzania also, actually organized their society in such a way that courtesy is held in high esteem………

In my fantasy, to be honest I have never really written it down or consciously reflected on it, its one of those images that jumps into my mind from time to time, it is a church for teenage all the way to young adult boys where at the end of every service we go into the community and serve somehow.

As for the immigrant counseling thing, watch this space. At the moment I am working on getting immi consultants, and if the 4 hour work week trial, or any of my future “material success” trials work, indeed I can actually create an all encompassing thing…..but its a brick at a time and I don’t know what ideas or plans I will have in future….so watch this space……….

No, I think I am marketing myself the wrong way online and hanging around the wrong people because it’s just one of those things that recently hit me…….the people I have the best “thinkers and action” based convos with are folks online, offline its just not my reality day to day….anyway I am sure there is a remedy to this, and I shall find it.

Hmm, tell me which article I spoke about African men loving differently and I think once I remember the context within which I spoke it will be clear what I was trying to say.

Have a great great great day and I am glad I answered your questions to your satisfaction.

I’m going back soon, soon, soon, like really soon…to do what? Catch up, make money, make a difference (’difference’ allows me to get away with the vagueness)

Thanks for comprehensively answering my questions. I don’t even know where to start. Will that church be exclusively for boys, or will it be a normal church with focus on developing responsible men? On the counseling immigrants thing, the business woman in me tells me there is real opportunity in that here at home, as most agencies will focus on getting you into campus, a VISA, they get their fee(which is paid upfront by the way), and you’re on your own. I think it would be god if you started something like this with focus on creating successful immigrants and making good money on the side.

About negativity, yeah, we’re one negative lot, but not to worry, when you’re back here, you’ll have support from us. Don’t let this make you postpone your dream even by a day.

You don’t connect with ladies intellectually often? That’s funny. You seem like the kind of guy who would be making intellectual connections all over the place!

On men and love, I wasn’t referring to romance. Once or twice you’ve said that most African men don’t ‘love’ like we do. I took this to mean that most men love with their head rather than the heart, which is why most times we ladies are the fools in love. Hope I made sense there.
That was what led me to the next question of, if men love with their heads, why do some (the minority) stay in bad relationships? That one you did really well.

Thanks!! *off to celebrate my day!