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	<title>Comments on: The Man Who Got Rejected Many Many Many Times But Still Got the Girl of His Dreams</title>
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		<title>By: Mwangi</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3461</link>
		<dc:creator>Mwangi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:25:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@pammy: YES! You nailed it and described what I wanted to communicate perfectly.

Thank you :D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@pammy: YES! You nailed it and described what I wanted to communicate perfectly.</p>
<p>Thank you <img src='http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: pammy</title>
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		<dc:creator>pammy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:22:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The story is about persistence and never giving up in life, love and other mysteries.  It is relevant to everyone regardless of where they are from, where they grew up or where they are located.

He knew he wanted the girl, he went after the girl, he didn&#039;t let himself get sidetracked and he got the girl.

Or some people will say, the girl saw the light...lol!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The story is about persistence and never giving up in life, love and other mysteries.  It is relevant to everyone regardless of where they are from, where they grew up or where they are located.</p>
<p>He knew he wanted the girl, he went after the girl, he didn&#8217;t let himself get sidetracked and he got the girl.</p>
<p>Or some people will say, the girl saw the light&#8230;lol!</p>
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		<title>By: Mwangi</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3473</link>
		<dc:creator>Mwangi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:08:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Pink M: I think I will pretty much take the approach that Carol has proposed, I think I have spoken enough about  to criticism and tomorrow I will do one final post about it and then focus on all of y&#039;all who have supported me and accept there are folks who I will constantly &quot;agree to disagree with,&quot;, whether they do so in a respectful, friendly manner or  not.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Pink M: I think I will pretty much take the approach that Carol has proposed, I think I have spoken enough about  to criticism and tomorrow I will do one final post about it and then focus on all of y&#8217;all who have supported me and accept there are folks who I will constantly &#8220;agree to disagree with,&#8221;, whether they do so in a respectful, friendly manner or  not.</p>
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		<title>By: Mwangi</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3463</link>
		<dc:creator>Mwangi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:06:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Jim: I don&#039;t dislike critics at all. Your criticism just hit me when I was vulnerable and I had to immediately find a positive way to look at it, or ignore it and so I chose to find a positive way to look at it.

However, you must also understand my friend, that I must see my vision through to the end, and as such, whenever I get criticism to the contrary I must find a way to either use it to advance my vision or dispose of it. I chose to use it as a catalyst to move forward, and in fact tomorrow&#039;s post is motivated by what we have discussed today.

You will notice that I did not attack you or go on a rant or default to the old, &quot;let them hate and we&#039;ll watch the money pile up,&quot; thing because I don&#039;t think it would be useful to the both of us.

I appreciate the fact that you took the time to stop by as  a friend and give me some advice. Thank you :D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Jim: I don&#8217;t dislike critics at all. Your criticism just hit me when I was vulnerable and I had to immediately find a positive way to look at it, or ignore it and so I chose to find a positive way to look at it.</p>
<p>However, you must also understand my friend, that I must see my vision through to the end, and as such, whenever I get criticism to the contrary I must find a way to either use it to advance my vision or dispose of it. I chose to use it as a catalyst to move forward, and in fact tomorrow&#8217;s post is motivated by what we have discussed today.</p>
<p>You will notice that I did not attack you or go on a rant or default to the old, &#8220;let them hate and we&#8217;ll watch the money pile up,&#8221; thing because I don&#8217;t think it would be useful to the both of us.</p>
<p>I appreciate the fact that you took the time to stop by as  a friend and give me some advice. Thank you <img src='http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Jim</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3464</link>
		<dc:creator>Jim</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:53:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mwangi…You seem like you don’t like negative critics and what I found out is they affect you deeply.  I am not here to hurt your feelings man. I was just trying to be realistic. Those who praise you all the time might be setting you up for failure and, if you can’t take a simple critic, you will have a rough time in your life.

This is my last comment on this post. I will check back next year. Matter of fact, I will bookmark this blog.

JIM</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mwangi…You seem like you don’t like negative critics and what I found out is they affect you deeply.  I am not here to hurt your feelings man. I was just trying to be realistic. Those who praise you all the time might be setting you up for failure and, if you can’t take a simple critic, you will have a rough time in your life.</p>
<p>This is my last comment on this post. I will check back next year. Matter of fact, I will bookmark this blog.</p>
<p>JIM</p>
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		<title>By: Pink M</title>
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		<dc:creator>Pink M</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:50:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Be prepared for the haters too, cos FYI success comes with hordes of them.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Be prepared for the haters too, cos FYI success comes with hordes of them.</p>
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		<title>By: Mwangi</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3469</link>
		<dc:creator>Mwangi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:08:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Pink M: Even when conducting empirical research, the simple process of selecting what to experiment out of the millions and billions and trillions of variables that can be tested and investigated in this world is an expression of where your head is at and your thinking is at.

I think what gives me relief about this whole process, among many things, is the fact that, every blogger I know and study, even the ginormous ones, heck anyone who is in the public consciousness has a camp of people who want to tear them limb from limb. Now, I may have critics, but I don&#039;t have haters like say, Timothy Ferriss who is way more materially successful than I.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Pink M: Even when conducting empirical research, the simple process of selecting what to experiment out of the millions and billions and trillions of variables that can be tested and investigated in this world is an expression of where your head is at and your thinking is at.</p>
<p>I think what gives me relief about this whole process, among many things, is the fact that, every blogger I know and study, even the ginormous ones, heck anyone who is in the public consciousness has a camp of people who want to tear them limb from limb. Now, I may have critics, but I don&#8217;t have haters like say, Timothy Ferriss who is way more materially successful than I.</p>
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		<title>By: Pink M</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3462</link>
		<dc:creator>Pink M</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:03:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think I got it. Thanks. Actually you got me thinking, may be objectivity doesn&#039;t exist, but there is a point where one gets personal when critiquing the impersonal and to me, that&#039;s crossing a certain line.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think I got it. Thanks. Actually you got me thinking, may be objectivity doesn&#8217;t exist, but there is a point where one gets personal when critiquing the impersonal and to me, that&#8217;s crossing a certain line.</p>
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		<title>By: Mwangi</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3460</link>
		<dc:creator>Mwangi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:40:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Pink M: Personally, I am of the opinion that objectivity does not exist and that &quot;we see things as we  are&quot; even when we try to or say we are &quot;seeing things as they are&quot;

To be honest with you, I don&#039;t know what it is. There are certain type of people who always seem to react in exactly the same way to what I write.

Over the course of doing this I have actually been told the same things, just from different people, over and over and over again.

I like to protect my ego, and remain positive by not over analysing any negativity or criticism but instead trying to take that energy and sublimate it to a higher, more positive, mutually benefitial purpose.

This comment seems a little abstract to me. Let me know if it is, and I will rephrase it.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Pink M: Personally, I am of the opinion that objectivity does not exist and that &#8220;we see things as we  are&#8221; even when we try to or say we are &#8220;seeing things as they are&#8221;</p>
<p>To be honest with you, I don&#8217;t know what it is. There are certain type of people who always seem to react in exactly the same way to what I write.</p>
<p>Over the course of doing this I have actually been told the same things, just from different people, over and over and over again.</p>
<p>I like to protect my ego, and remain positive by not over analysing any negativity or criticism but instead trying to take that energy and sublimate it to a higher, more positive, mutually benefitial purpose.</p>
<p>This comment seems a little abstract to me. Let me know if it is, and I will rephrase it.</p>
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		<title>By: Mwangi</title>
		<link>http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/08/the-man-who-got-rejected-many-many-many-times-but-still-got-the-girl-of-his-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-3466</link>
		<dc:creator>Mwangi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:36:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Nerimae: What parts of the tale didn&#039;t you understand so I can clarify it for you? At times I didn&#039;t want to go into too much detail because I don&#039;t have permission of the people who told the story to tell it so I just wanted to express the principle that I most got from the story.

I make a HUUUGGGEEE digression here, so bear with me.

I think as a general rule to criticism from now on, I will always have the same answer.

I don&#039;t say this with malice, sarcasm or any malevolent intent on my part:

If you don&#039;t like what I do or what the blog does then either:
a) Criticize me AND THEN give me positive feedback and/or
b) Take action and create a much better alternative to what I am doing.

As I was saying to Caroline, as I evolve over the course of this blogging thing, I am losing more and more and more respect for intellectual discourse and debate ESPECIALLY when it does not result in action because I really feel those are moments lost that you could have used to put your grandiose ideas to action and who knows where that may have led.

I was listening to an interview with a guy by the name of Robert Cialdini and he was talking about how he did not like the fact that academia was actually not taking their discussions and research and findings and putting them into actionable, useful information for the public.

Instead, to use blunt language, they were participating in intellectual self-service&amp;pleasure where they would make themselves feel intelligent in their peer review journals and the halls of their academies.

When I wrote the article on the need to take action, I wrote it because I know for a fact that majority of us immigrants are better educated than most of human history combined.

We know more facts, figures, historical facts, have more archetypes and exemplars stored in our memories than we know what to do with.

I think as a general rule, we should NEVER read another book until we take action and test ideas from the previous book to see how they gel in the real world.

To bring it back to this blog, we should NEVER criticize using words but instead should do so using actions. Intellectual discourse, debate and argument will end as soon as the debate is over, but action directed by a powerful intent (in this case to do better than our opponent) will probably result in a much longer lasting result not only in the short term but perhaps for a very long time or who knows, maybe in perpetuity.

Well now that I have typed that, I know what tomorrow&#039;s post is going to be about :D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Nerimae: What parts of the tale didn&#8217;t you understand so I can clarify it for you? At times I didn&#8217;t want to go into too much detail because I don&#8217;t have permission of the people who told the story to tell it so I just wanted to express the principle that I most got from the story.</p>
<p>I make a HUUUGGGEEE digression here, so bear with me.</p>
<p>I think as a general rule to criticism from now on, I will always have the same answer.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t say this with malice, sarcasm or any malevolent intent on my part:</p>
<p>If you don&#8217;t like what I do or what the blog does then either:<br />
a) Criticize me AND THEN give me positive feedback and/or<br />
b) Take action and create a much better alternative to what I am doing.</p>
<p>As I was saying to Caroline, as I evolve over the course of this blogging thing, I am losing more and more and more respect for intellectual discourse and debate ESPECIALLY when it does not result in action because I really feel those are moments lost that you could have used to put your grandiose ideas to action and who knows where that may have led.</p>
<p>I was listening to an interview with a guy by the name of Robert Cialdini and he was talking about how he did not like the fact that academia was actually not taking their discussions and research and findings and putting them into actionable, useful information for the public.</p>
<p>Instead, to use blunt language, they were participating in intellectual self-service&#038;pleasure where they would make themselves feel intelligent in their peer review journals and the halls of their academies.</p>
<p>When I wrote the article on the need to take action, I wrote it because I know for a fact that majority of us immigrants are better educated than most of human history combined.</p>
<p>We know more facts, figures, historical facts, have more archetypes and exemplars stored in our memories than we know what to do with.</p>
<p>I think as a general rule, we should NEVER read another book until we take action and test ideas from the previous book to see how they gel in the real world.</p>
<p>To bring it back to this blog, we should NEVER criticize using words but instead should do so using actions. Intellectual discourse, debate and argument will end as soon as the debate is over, but action directed by a powerful intent (in this case to do better than our opponent) will probably result in a much longer lasting result not only in the short term but perhaps for a very long time or who knows, maybe in perpetuity.</p>
<p>Well now that I have typed that, I know what tomorrow&#8217;s post is going to be about <img src='http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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