Comments on: So Here’s What You Do When You are a Terrible Friend

By: Mwangi

Mwangi — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 12:40:47 +0000

@Shiroh: Don’t ask for the good if you are not willing to make the sacrifices.

I saw you at the most unexpected place, Leo’s blog, Zen Habits. It was good to see another African face in the comments thread of a big time blog like that one.

By: Mwangi

Mwangi — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 12:39:30 +0000

@kelly: I am very bad at following people up when it comes to money and in my experience every time I have lended people money it’s never been paid back. But then again, I have piggy backed on these people a lot of times so reciprocity keeps going…..

Yeah, you see I was actually experiencing that today with 2 women I was hanging out with. They gave me a problem and I immediately jumped to the solution and they kept trying to bring me to a place where I would just listen. Whether or not always been solution oriented is a good thing, I don’t know. But I do know that, there are people out there in the world who are way better listeners than me.

By: Shiroh

Shiroh — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 09:28:13 +0000

Mwangi, i totally agree with you. It is good to be a good friend or stay out of the friendship thing if you are not willing to sacrifice for it.

By: kelly

kelly — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 13:05:36 +0000

Imagine there are friends I lend money to and there are no issues, but there are others who it becomes a whole lot of problems.

On the second one, what happens when all your close friends are men? You do whole lot of listening, and you’re rarely listened to. Anyways, not complaining.

Stealing each other’s spouses? lol I’m yet to figure out how a spouse is stolen so no comment. But yeah, at times women suck. I must say however, that I have one or two girlfriends who are simply awesome (one of them is a sister so she probably doesn’t count).

By: Mwangi

Mwangi — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:36:31 +0000

@kelly: A rule I created a while ago was that if I can help it, I don’t give friends money, I pay for their things. If I do, I assume that the money is gone. That one has definitely been a nail in the coffin of quite a few relationships, including one of my own.
That second one, women would be way more in tune with, me thinks.

Yeah I don’t understand women as a whole across all age groups. A lot of you are so fake with one another. I have seen this from age 13 all the way to women in their 50s, pretending to be friends to each other’s faces while cursing each other out behind each other’s backs, stealing each other’s spouses among other things…….women, go fig?!

By: kelly

kelly — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:24:29 +0000

1.Don’t lend them money unless you’re very sure they’ll pay you back.
2. Listen, even to the non spoken stuff.

You’re right on point on that thing of dissing your friends because you got a new boo. I had this friend who called me up only when she was having boy problems or when they’ve broken up. When she’s happy, no time for you.

By: Mwangi

Mwangi — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 07:16:25 +0000

@Nigerian Entrepreneur: Hmm it’s interesting to see how I am not the only person who has made mistakes in this area. I guess as a result of never opening up dialogue in this area, I always held on to some odd belief that I was the only person who made a lot of these mistakes.
Thanks for the commitment man, however I understand that one is busy so don’t overextend yourself, this blog will be around for a long time.
Thanks about the Page rank, to be quite honest, I am quite disappointed, I was actually hoping for a 5 or a 6 considering I have gotten so many links (including from you thank you very much) since their last Page Rank evaluation. I am anxiously awaiting my day it becomes 5 or 6 so that I can put that in my recently created, soon to be out advertising and sponsorship page.
Have you been following the Blog Mastermind relaunch? I hope you got a chance to see the videos, they are pretty good:

By: Nigerian Entrepreneur

Nigerian Entrepreneur — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 07:08:23 +0000

You are not alone. I have quite a lot of regrets in this area. There are friends that I neglected and now, I crave for their friendship. I was careless about the relationship while they were doing everything to keep the relationship going, unfortunately, now that I have come to value those relationship that were built over time on sincere foundation, most of them are nowhere to be found.

So, my friend, even though I may not visit your site everyday, I have made up my mind to visit at least once a week, ‘cos I don’t want you to become part of the statistics of those I lost through carelessness.

Congratulations on your new page rank. I can see that big brother Google is noticing your effort. I am proudly African.

By: Mwangi

Mwangi — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 16:44:11 +0000

@petesmama: Godspeed making ammends. Glad I could help

By: petesmama

petesmama — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:45:06 +0000

Great read. I’m guilty on all counts. Lemme scurry away and make ammends.