Comments on: Jungle Fever 2: The Relationship Between White Men and African Women http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/ African's personal development blog Fri, 20 Jan 2012 06:44:15 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: ALan Dodds http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-6553 ALan Dodds Fri, 20 Jan 2012 06:44:15 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-6553 Well there are some interesting posts here. I will admit that. However I have a dose of reality here for you all. I am a caucasiom male in his mid thirties. I am about to marry a African lady. I am your average man working his way through life. I am not rich, but am not poor either. My fiancee knows this and we do not have jungle fever. We are just two people that became attracted to each other, stayed in touch, fell in love and are very soon to be married. We have known each other for over a year now and soon my fiancee and her daughter will be living with me. The funny thing is that she went out of her way to catch me. I have never viewed our relationship as B/W as most people do and will, but unfortunately we both still face friends saying are you sure be they black or white. Nothing in this world is certain. I know people will read this blog and agree with nothing because of their own views and others will be glad to read it. You do not have to be a rich white man for a African women to approach you. My fiancee told me just wanted true love. She just happened to find it with e before she found it with an African man and trust me when I say that if she had found that with an African man first then that is the way it would have been. Well I hope some people find this interesting, but whatever your views are just know that no matter where a person is from, if it fits and you are happy. Then it is right. Well there are some interesting posts here. I will admit that. However I have a dose of reality here for you all.
I am a caucasiom male in his mid thirties. I am about to marry a African lady. I am your average man working his way through life. I am not rich, but am not poor either. My fiancee knows this and we do not have jungle fever. We are just two people that became attracted to each other, stayed in touch, fell in love and are very soon to be married. We have known each other for over a year now and soon my fiancee and her daughter will be living with me. The funny thing is that she went out of her way to catch me. I have never viewed our relationship as B/W as most people do and will, but unfortunately we both still face friends saying are you sure be they black or white. Nothing in this world is certain. I know people will read this blog and agree with nothing because of their own views and others will be glad to read it. You do not have to be a rich white man for a African women to approach you. My fiancee told me just wanted true love. She just happened to find it with e before she found it with an African man and trust me when I say that if she had found that with an African man first then that is the way it would have been. Well I hope some people find this interesting, but whatever your views are just know that no matter where a person is from, if it fits and you are happy. Then it is right.

]]> By: Brian http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-6543 Brian Mon, 09 Jan 2012 07:07:44 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-6543 WOW!!! I'm what is called an African-American. I am generalizing here but am I to believe after reading these comments that it's not just American so-called sisters that are attracted to money. It's global!? Women are primaly attracted to money in the same way a brother is attracted to a round rump and small waist. A woman can no more resist money(security), than a man can resist sex. But not every man can be wealthy. But a man can walk and carry himself with a sense of moral standard that includes what he is looking for in a woman(I recommend Proverbs 31:10-31). Shallow materialistic women are repulsive to me. But brothers we have to be worthy of the women who are of substance if she is who we seek. However, if we are just looking for a cheap thrill, then get your game tight. Women are playing hardball now. They know a weak man will do next to anything to squeeze between her. In the end both get what they deserve. WOW!!! I’m what is called an African-American. I am generalizing here but am I to believe after reading these comments that it’s not just American so-called sisters that are attracted to money. It’s global!? Women are primaly attracted to money in the same way a brother is attracted to a round rump and small waist. A woman can no more resist money(security), than a man can resist sex. But not every man can be wealthy. But a man can walk and carry himself with a sense of moral standard that includes what he is looking for in a woman(I recommend Proverbs 31:10-31). Shallow materialistic women are repulsive to me. But brothers we have to be worthy of the women who are of substance if she is who we seek. However, if we are just looking for a cheap thrill, then get your game tight. Women are playing hardball now. They know a weak man will do next to anything to squeeze between her. In the end both get what they deserve.

]]> By: Mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-6533 Mwangi Fri, 30 Dec 2011 10:48:48 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-6533 @Chris: Sadly, yes you should be suspicious @Chris: Sadly, yes you should be suspicious

]]> By: Chris http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-6530 Chris Mon, 26 Dec 2011 13:44:19 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-6530 As a white british man, I see alot of african women dating us 'whities' here in the uk. I am neither for or against it aslong as it is genuine. But alot of the native africans who come here, they go for below average to average white men (your nerdy techie type with glasses and a not so great fashion sense) the 'black british' here (african and carribean descent) go for white guys who are average to above average in looks and have a great fashion sense etc. What bothers me is alot (not all surely) is of the african womens' motive when they are here in the UK. As the nerdy sort of guy (though my fashion sense isnt too bad) I've never had that much success in the dating game and in regards to western cultured women. African women try to get my attention regualrly here but I'm not convinced this is genuine. I assume it may be because of money and the need or hope for a visa for permanent residence here in the UK. I am in no means a racist or anything. I am friends with these women and enjoy talkin to them just like anyone else but something bugs me in my mind when they want to date me whilst my own western female counterparts dont bother with me muich.. Am I nommral to be suspicious? As a white british man, I see alot of african women dating us ‘whities’ here in the uk. I am neither for or against it aslong as it is genuine.

But alot of the native africans who come here, they go for below average to average white men (your nerdy techie type with glasses and a not so great fashion sense) the ‘black british’ here (african and carribean descent) go for white guys who are average to above average in looks and have a great fashion sense etc.

What bothers me is alot (not all surely) is of the african womens’ motive when they are here in the UK. As the nerdy sort of guy (though my fashion sense isnt too bad) I’ve never had that much success in the dating game and in regards to western cultured women. African women try to get my attention regualrly here but I’m not convinced this is genuine.

I assume it may be because of money and the need or hope for a visa for permanent residence here in the UK. I am in no means a racist or anything. I am friends with these women and enjoy talkin to them just like anyone else but something bugs me in my mind when they want to date me whilst my own western female counterparts dont bother with me muich.. Am I nommral to be suspicious?

]]> By: stace http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-6528 stace Sun, 25 Dec 2011 23:00:59 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-6528 Wow, I just returned from kenya - a hairdresser in Western charged me 2500 for a hairwash pulling money out of my purse (I am fem) telling me she wants a white bf. I told her hairdressing is on the skilled migrant list here and white guys expect a woman to work and contribute financially these days. She said she'd even take an old one, so there is a certain Gold Digger class of African ladies who have this unrealistic idea of western life. The ones with old dudes made me sick and i THINK some of those men should be shot, some are dead ugly and not even anything back home I bet, becoz of exchange rate can get to Kenya and these misguided and desperate girls go for them. Not worried about greedy ones, they deserve what they get. The caretaker in my compount is a single mother and she wants a white as they don't cheat (well, not nearly as much), and I certainly had dozens of married dudes hit on me there. The asian fetish is for 2 reasons. Women like big ones and men like "tight" and Asians are tiny and peceived that way. Also their culture is more pampering to men so the men enjoy being spoiled. There might be less freedom in other ways but she'll dote whereas western chicks except dudes to help with washing up and go out drinking without their partner eetc. btw my bf is a kenyan but I am worried about the redneck relatives i have. i am a liberal and this guy is awesome but... i am scared. If i could earn seious money i would move there. Wow, I just returned from kenya – a hairdresser in Western charged me 2500 for a hairwash pulling money out of my purse (I am fem) telling me she wants a white bf. I told her hairdressing is on the skilled migrant list here and white guys expect a woman to work and contribute financially these days. She said she’d even take an old one, so there is a certain Gold Digger class of African ladies who have this unrealistic idea of western life.

The ones with old dudes made me sick and i THINK some of those men should be shot, some are dead ugly and not even anything back home I bet, becoz of exchange rate can get to Kenya and these misguided and desperate girls go for them. Not worried about greedy ones, they deserve what they get.
The caretaker in my compount is a single mother and she wants a white as they don’t cheat (well, not nearly as much), and I certainly had dozens of married dudes hit on me there.

The asian fetish is for 2 reasons. Women like big ones and men like “tight” and Asians are tiny and peceived that way. Also their culture is more pampering to men so the men enjoy being spoiled. There might be less freedom in other ways but she’ll dote whereas western chicks except dudes to help with washing up and go out drinking without their partner eetc.

btw my bf is a kenyan but I am worried about the redneck relatives i have. i am a liberal and this guy is awesome but… i am scared. If i could earn seious money i would move there.

]]> By: Lollie http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-6257 Lollie Tue, 21 Jun 2011 20:30:58 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-6257 With internet dating, I think the world is opening up for all folks regardless of ethnicity to meet someone special. I am a black woman who was married to and dated only black men until recently. I have been seriously involved with a white man for the last eight months and things are going great. I will be honest that it took me conquering my own internal bias to be able to open up to this man. The fact that I have two kids further complicated my mindset. However, when this man and I started to talk and see all of the things we had in common....we just clicked. What am I supposed to do now? Give up the chance of pure happiness because of this man’s skin color? I think now....I have grown to love him and see myself having a future with him. Does it mean that I love my brothers any less...no. I simply choose to be happy. Life is too short to be wrapping myself up waiting for my dark prince who might never come my way. Yes, I have noticed some difference in how he treats me....but it has nothing to do with his race. It has to do with the fact that this man has a good character which was instilled in him from a little boy. He knows how to treat a woman and he knows how to accept the love of a good woman without it challenging his manhood. I think that a lot of men need to grow up and learn to be more authentic within them. A lot of men walk around here worried about how their buddies perceive them so they put on errors of this macho, aggressive man...the woman beater to use your term. Why? Back in the day...the only thing a man cared about was that he had a good woman....his aggression only shown when someone else was coveting the love of his life or threatened his family. They were the protectors not the hurters. We as women..need to stop settling for mis-treatement and sharing men. We are the ones that have it in our power to make men be more respectful towards us. Its not about giving in to a woman...its about giving and giving respect to one another. The DRAMA is exhausting, not necessary and a waste of useful energy. LOVE is all that should matter. This world is a melting pot...ever evolving....why do we feel the need to hold onto something that is basically destroying our human race. Its the only race that matters. Racism and Prejudice is the seed of all that is wrong in this world. I love my man and I love my children. They are all beautiful to me...with their various shades, expressions and intellect. Thanks for starting this discussion. It was very interesting reading. With internet dating, I think the world is opening up for all folks regardless of ethnicity to meet someone special. I am a black woman who was married to and dated only black men until recently. I have been seriously involved with a white man for the last eight months and things are going great. I will be honest that it took me conquering my own internal bias to be able to open up to this man. The fact that I have two kids further complicated my mindset. However, when this man and I started to talk and see all of the things we had in common….we just clicked. What am I supposed to do now? Give up the chance of pure happiness because of this man’s skin color? I think now….I have grown to love him and see myself having a future with him. Does it mean that I love my brothers any less…no. I simply choose to be happy. Life is too short to be wrapping myself up waiting for my dark prince who might never come my way. Yes, I have noticed some difference in how he treats me….but it has nothing to do with his race. It has to do with the fact that this man has a good character which was instilled in him from a little boy. He knows how to treat a woman and he knows how to accept the love of a good woman without it challenging his manhood. I think that a lot of men need to grow up and learn to be more authentic within them. A lot of men walk around here worried about how their buddies perceive them so they put on errors of this macho, aggressive man…the woman beater to use your term. Why? Back in the day…the only thing a man cared about was that he had a good woman….his aggression only shown when someone else was coveting the love of his life or threatened his family. They were the protectors not the hurters. We as women..need to stop settling for mis-treatement and sharing men. We are the ones that have it in our power to make men be more respectful towards us. Its not about giving in to a woman…its about giving and giving respect to one another. The DRAMA is exhausting, not necessary and a waste of useful energy. LOVE is all that should matter. This world is a melting pot…ever evolving….why do we feel the need to hold onto something that is basically destroying our human race. Its the only race that matters. Racism and Prejudice is the seed of all that is wrong in this world. I love my man and I love my children. They are all beautiful to me…with their various shades, expressions and intellect. Thanks for starting this discussion. It was very interesting reading.

]]> By: love u mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-5539 love u mwangi Thu, 21 Oct 2010 14:54:10 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-5539 Not all white men are good and not all black men are bad either. It just depends on the individual. However from my personal experience most white men know how to treat their women with love and respect.I did'nt realise what I was missing out on until I met my current boyfriend who is white.He has his faults but he is the best thing that ever happened in my life and i looooove him:) .....awww. My friends are not very supportive of our relationship because of the mixed race but I really dont care. What I went through when I had a African guy ......ah ah misri sirudi kamwe lol!So I guess that puts me in the" bitter woman category" ? lol Not all white men are good and not all black men are bad either. It just depends on the individual. However from my personal experience most white men know how to treat their women with love and respect.I did’nt realise what I was missing out on until I met my current boyfriend who is white.He has his faults but he is the best thing that ever happened in my life and i looooove him:) …..awww. My friends are not very supportive of our relationship because of the mixed race but I really dont care. What I went through when I had a African guy ……ah ah misri sirudi kamwe lol!So I guess that puts me in the” bitter woman category” ? lol

]]> By: Nina http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-5509 Nina Thu, 14 Oct 2010 21:15:25 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-5509 Accidentally stumbled on this blog and I found it hilarious and honest. I'm an African girl in a relationship with a white guy and I can honestly say he is the best guy i have ever been with and I have dated a lot. Our cultures could not be any more different but the interesting part of our relationship has been learning more about each other. I think I fell in love with him because he is attracted to the things about me I consider most important. My brain, career, love for life, my desire to constantly learn. He loves my accent, skin color, culture, food, everything. He wants to know everything about me, even making the "scary" trip to go visit my parents and family in Africa. I think the best thing about him is he is not afraid to love me. That is something I never got from an African man I dated. It surprised me that african men my age (I'm on the lower side of my 20s), still think that a woman's only job is to serve him and have his kids. Don't get me wrong I was raised by an African woman and I know how to cook, clean and take care of my man, but I refuse to have that be my only job in life. Maybe thats why I date white guys now, I don't know. I am yet to meet an African man who is not threatened by a successful, strong woman and who is willing to cook for his woman, and show her love regardless of the situation or "audience". Accidentally stumbled on this blog and I found it hilarious and honest. I’m an African girl in a relationship with a white guy and I can honestly say he is the best guy i have ever been with and I have dated a lot. Our cultures could not be any more different but the interesting part of our relationship has been learning more about each other. I think I fell in love with him because he is attracted to the things about me I consider most important. My brain, career, love for life, my desire to constantly learn. He loves my accent, skin color, culture, food, everything. He wants to know everything about me, even making the “scary” trip to go visit my parents and family in Africa. I think the best thing about him is he is not afraid to love me. That is something I never got from an African man I dated. It surprised me that african men my age (I’m on the lower side of my 20s), still think that a woman’s only job is to serve him and have his kids. Don’t get me wrong I was raised by an African woman and I know how to cook, clean and take care of my man, but I refuse to have that be my only job in life. Maybe thats why I date white guys now, I don’t know. I am yet to meet an African man who is not threatened by a successful, strong woman and who is willing to cook for his woman, and show her love regardless of the situation or “audience”.

]]> By: admin http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-5494 admin Wed, 06 Oct 2010 17:21:32 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-5494 @australia: Unfortunately as I am not in your shoes at present or don't have much deep knowledge of people in your situation I probably cant offer any advice however I hope your leaving your comment out here results in folks coming out who can give useful tips or advice. @australia: Unfortunately as I am not in your shoes at present or don’t have much deep knowledge of people in your situation I probably cant offer any advice however I hope your leaving your comment out here results in folks coming out who can give useful tips or advice.

]]> By: austraialia http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/jungle-fever-2-the-relationship-between-white-men-and-african-women/comment-page-2/#comment-5488 austraialia Tue, 05 Oct 2010 07:57:17 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=280#comment-5488 im white austraiian man, im in love with a girl from zimbabwe 10 years younger than me im 40 she is 30, any ideas how to impress her as she does not know how much i wana marry her??, is there anyone else out there like this?? im white austraiian man, im in love with a girl from zimbabwe 10 years younger than me im 40 she is 30, any ideas how to impress her as she does not know how much i wana marry her??, is there anyone else out there like this??

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