Comments on: Guest Post: An Open Letter to Men on How to Treat Women http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/ African's personal development blog Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:32:30 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1561 Mwangi Thu, 08 May 2008 10:29:10 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1561 @kelly: I don't think it's you he doesn't trust, I think he is a man and he doesn't trust other men because he knows what we are capable of. You know, it wasn't until just a few months back when I realized just how much self-interest there is even when women go for allegedly "bad boys". She goes for bad boys so SHE CAN FEEL EXCITED by what he brings into her life. When she goes for the nice man she goes for him so SHE CAN FEEL SAFE. Enyewe TV would have you believe that women act from this place of a higher good but lo and behold, women are pretty selfish too.......... @kelly: I don’t think it’s you he doesn’t trust, I think he is a man and he doesn’t trust other men because he knows what we are capable of.
You know, it wasn’t until just a few months back when I realized just how much self-interest there is even when women go for allegedly “bad boys”. She goes for bad boys so SHE CAN FEEL EXCITED by what he brings into her life. When she goes for the nice man she goes for him so SHE CAN FEEL SAFE. Enyewe TV would have you believe that women act from this place of a higher good but lo and behold, women are pretty selfish too……….

]]> By: kelly http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1562 kelly Thu, 08 May 2008 08:56:58 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1562 @ Mwangi, sorry to take you back, but the reason it's annoying if a guy asks whether I have slept with my guy buddies ( I have over 10 at any one point) is that it makes me come off as a loose woman. I know men are 'hungry' creatures as you said, but shouldn't the guy just trust me? On the bad guy thing, I kinda agree with you, but even the 'masculine' women often get attracted to the dominant confident man in realationships but on a long term basis, most women want to marry a nice guy. Kinda selfish! @ Mwangi, sorry to take you back, but the reason it’s annoying if a guy asks whether I have slept with my guy buddies ( I have over 10 at any one point) is that it makes me come off as a loose woman. I know men are ‘hungry’ creatures as you said, but shouldn’t the guy just trust me?

On the bad guy thing, I kinda agree with you, but even the ‘masculine’ women often get attracted to the dominant confident man in realationships but on a long term basis, most women want to marry a nice guy. Kinda selfish!

]]> By: Mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1564 Mwangi Wed, 07 May 2008 16:25:14 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1564 @Mo Ma: My two cents on it is every woman who is feminine at the core responds to confidence and masculine strength whereas women who are masculine at the core, or in character, love timid, nice men they can control. Don't quote me though, no stats, just intuition! @Mo Ma: My two cents on it is every woman who is feminine at the core responds to confidence and masculine strength whereas women who are masculine at the core, or in character, love timid, nice men they can control. Don’t quote me though, no stats, just intuition!

]]> By: Mo Ma http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1563 Mo Ma Wed, 07 May 2008 16:00:53 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1563 Is there ANY girl that likes nice guys? Is everyone only into the jerks/bad boys? Is there ANY girl that likes nice guys?

Is everyone only into the jerks/bad boys?

]]> By: Mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1560 Mwangi Mon, 05 May 2008 18:17:04 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1560 @wisewan: I'll have a look at it and let you know what I think. @wisewan: I’ll have a look at it and let you know what I think.

]]> By: wisewan http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1559 wisewan Mon, 05 May 2008 18:11:00 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1559 Here is a view that talks of the same issue, from a totally wacked and different angle: http://www.kenya.fm/?p=36 Here is a view that talks of the same issue, from a totally wacked and different angle: http://www.kenya.fm/?p=36

]]> By: Mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1558 Mwangi Mon, 05 May 2008 12:17:20 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1558 @Sunnt Indeed it is Mars vs Venus...I would have no problem whatsoever with the above situation. Me and her know the truth in spite of what others say anyway. @Sunnt Indeed it is Mars vs Venus…I would have no problem whatsoever with the above situation. Me and her know the truth in spite of what others say anyway.

]]> By: Sunny http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1557 Sunny Mon, 05 May 2008 12:15:15 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1557 People already assume what they know is true, yes? and so in spite of being happy to be friends with X, you are damned to whatever conclusion the person arrives at. Its annoying because you know the more you explain being friends, the more people think you are up to something, and vice versa. It is indeed a M/V situation. People already assume what they know is true, yes? and so in spite of being happy to be friends with X, you are damned to whatever conclusion the person arrives at. Its annoying because you know the more you explain being friends, the more people think you are up to something, and vice versa. It is indeed a M/V situation.

]]> By: Mwangi http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1556 Mwangi Mon, 05 May 2008 11:58:31 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1556 @ Kelly and @ Sunny: Why is it annoying? If the person is good enough to be your friend then why would it be annoying that you would have to correct that mistake? This one appears to be a Mars/Venus situation....... @ Kelly and @ Sunny: Why is it annoying? If the person is good enough to be your friend then why would it be annoying that you would have to correct that mistake?
This one appears to be a Mars/Venus situation…….

]]> By: Sunny http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/2008/05/guest-post-an-open-letter-to-men-on-how-to-treat-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1555 Sunny Mon, 05 May 2008 11:47:30 +0000 http://www.thedisplacedafrican.com/?p=270#comment-1555 @gal and @seinlife Thanks for the appreciation. @Kelly I do not know how I forgot that one. I think if you have male friends, you are likely to insert into conversation, "Went to dinner with X" and likely get a response from not only guys but a surprising number of girls, "Are you two...." So annoying. @gal and @seinlife
Thanks for the appreciation.

@Kelly
I do not know how I forgot that one. I think if you have male friends, you are likely to insert into conversation, “Went to dinner with X” and likely get a response from not only guys but a surprising number of girls, “Are you two….” So annoying.

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